Monday, 19 September 2016

Road Trip


So I'm just about to head off on my month long trip, some of which will be a road trip in the states.

I'm heading back to San Francisco firstly, a place I fell in love with when I visited 5 years ago. I'm looking forward to visiting a few kink places again and one or two new ones. No doubt I will head back home with some fabulous new bondage gear from Mr S Leathers. I might actually end up spending a whole day in this place. 

I have actually written some blogs to keep you all entertained or bored while I'm away. Having said that I don't know whether I'll actually get online to post them. We shall see. Given how I feel about getting away from it all and recharging my batteries then I might never make it online to do anything. 

In the meantime you can enjoy a little bit of a rogues gallery. As you can see they are not always the best quality due to the lighting and the spur of the moment nature of how they are taken, but still you get the idea of how much we are both enjoying ourselves. And just because I'm a raging narcissist there is a cleavage shot of me in there, but also because I knew one or two of you quite like to see my cleavage too...:)

For those interested I will be back in the UK on or around the 16th October with sessions resuming around the 19th. I think I've only got one or two slots available that week already so do get in touch soon to arrange an appointment before I'm on the road...:)

This one is not going to make the coffee lying there!

This one looks almost comatose!


Darth does Dungeon!
A sort of intensive care, but without the care!





Best footstool ever!


A pair of breasts...in my dungeon, and they're not mine!



Another intensive care bed is taken up with a layabout!
He was having a bad hair day, I was just helping him out aesthetically!
And last but not least, a purple butt of a different kind!

Monday, 18 July 2016

10 Years and Counting Part 1

So 2016 marks the 10 year anniversary of my becoming a Professional Dominatrix. It's been fun, funny, crazy, hard going, fulfilling and bizarre at times. I've decided to dedicate a few blog posts to what I've learned in those ten years and other stuff. Hope you enjoy!




What I've learned in 10 years of Pro Domming.


1. People are people. Obvious huh?


Yes I know, but from an outsiders perspective we are all sick. Even from more enlightened individuals it seems that there is an opinion and judgement made about people who are into fetish/kink/dominance etc and also about people who pay to indulge.


From my experience there are good and bad in all walks of life and from all orientations. I see lots of very lovely individuals, who on the face of it society would call normal people. However, there is no such thing as normal, but we do end up talking about normal things, life, where we are going on holiday and the ponderings of the universe.


In the past 10 years some of my visitors have become good friends. I've gone to fetish clubs with some, gone on holiday with some, had one or two stay over at my home and met up with others in a foreign city to share a beer. I've gone to dinner with quite a number and just generally enjoyed time spent together putting the world to right. 


I'm fascinated by people in general but more specifically those into BDSM. I'm fascinated by their stories and what led them into kink and also what led them to my door. 


Everyone has a story, everyone is unique and everyone has needs. When those need are getting met in a healthy way, everyone benefits. So even when it comes to non kink needs, when people have the courage and the opportunity to seek what they need, the ripple effects can be felt in many areas be that work, family, relationships, mindset or even physical health. So have a long hard think about what you consider your needs in life, and go bloody grab them by the balls....ok maybe not, but gently explore!


2. Trust is key.


Your instincts, your gut, your body will tell you before your mind can process things. That feeling in your stomach will be the tell tale sign. Is is excitement and butterflies, or is it anxiety and dread? It takes time to tune into what's going on there, but when we do it's a mine of information. I always speak to people on the phone before making an appointment. It's not so much about what they are saying, it's how they say it, the tone, the inflection, the attitude. When I listen in to all of that I usually get a feeling about whether I should offer them an appointment or not. I've been wrong on only a few occasions but never badly. Only wrong as in we didn't quite gel. I've never had an unsafe encounter thankfully.  I didn't always listen to my gut instinct in the early days but it was all a learning curve. Now I'm shit hot at listening to my gut. I won't ever ignore it or let someone persuade me otherwise. The lesson I've learned is that the gut is always right, choose to ignore it at your peril.


3. Boundaries.


Strong boundaries make for happier interactions all round. Knowing my line in the sand, communicating that and adhering to that line is one of the best lessons I've learned and has transferred well into every other aspect of my life. In the early days this can be difficult until you know where your line is. There are no rights and no wrongs with what you do, what you're happy to accommodate and how flexible you want to be, just as long as people know they will mostly respect it. Of course there will be people who want to try to push your boundaries and chance things but they usually just need to be told no and that's enough to satisfy them that when you say no you mean no.


I know of situations within say family scenarios where people won't ask something of me because they know I can't be swayed or easily manipulated but will do so with another family member. It's sad to see but at the same time it's gratifying to know that I've communicated my feelings on things so well it's known I won't be moved.


4. Everyone needs time out.


Always required. Helps prevent burnout and boredom. I see people come into Pro Domming and hit the ground running. Loving every minute of it and going to every fetish event, seeing every submissive who applies and burning the candle at both ends. Six months later they are nowhere to be seen. When I first came out into the fetish scene I went to lots of clubs, parties and munches. These were wonderful but heady days. I loved kink and decided after a few years to start offering sessions. I couldn't understand why lots of people gave up within the first year. I loved it so much I couldn't understand someone walking away from it and doing so for good. However, what I had failed to realise is that I had a very full life out with. I had then, and even more so now, a list as long as your arm of hobbies that I regularly indulged in. If I'm not outdoors hiking, I'm baking or painting or cycling or running. I regularly sign up for classes to learn something new or perfect something that I enjoy. It makes for a more rounded individual and a clearer mindset.


I know when I've been knee deep in kink for days, perhaps sessioning, filming, being involved and around kink friends I start to get a bit of cabin fever. It becomes a bit surreal and I have to escape to the real world. This is not to say I don't love it, I certainly do, but it's all about balance. When I indulge in other activities I come back to my premises all refreshed and full of new ideas about what I want to do or I've had flashes of creativity about new things to try.


The same goes for holiday time. I regularly make sure I have a decent break, usually 3 or 4 weeks in one go as well as other one week and mini breaks throughout the year. It clears my head completely. It feels like I've just done a brain dump to clear the memory space for new ideas and enthusiasm.


If your head is so full of your work non stop, the creative/fun/childlike part of you never gets let out. That can lead to lots of issues not just mental but physical too. So get out from behind your desk and go do something fun and enjoyable. You'll be way more productive when you get back, I promise.


5. Knowing my worth.


This is a biggie. I had a previous career before this one and let me tell you I was bloody good at what I did. I had managed to get to quite a senior level and in the latter years was head hunted a few times because of the skill set I had. These skills have more than easily transferred over to my Pro-Domming life and made for an easy transition.


However, in the early days you're not quite sure if what you have to offer will be in demand and sometimes this takes a bit of time to get a feel for. Lets face it, this industry is very much weighted towards a visual element and not everyone is going to appreciate your look/size/hair colour. So as in life, you need to develop an appreciation for who you are as a person, what you've got to offer the world and how to be comfortable with selling that. We all know that looks fade and as a society we are all fed the B/S about how we are supposed to look and how much we are worth in relation to that. Having your self worth rooted in your value as a person and your uniqueness is the foundation for being able to reject the notion that your value is less because you don't have the right look, the right size figure, the right colour skin or hair or whatever other B/S anyone tries to tell you.


I've learned to appreciate my years of experience,  my people skills, my enthusiasm, my passion, my knowledge and my judgement to such an extent that I will never let someone haggle my tribute down or feel I need to offer any special deals or discounts. I know what I'm worth but if someone else doesn't know that then I don't have a great problem with it. There will always be someone else who knows and appreciates my worth. 


This lesson again has transferred into my personal life. Because I know my worth in monetary terms, I also know my worth and value in terms of time too. I won't spend time now on negative people. I won't be in the company of anyone who is less than genuine. I don't want to surround myself with people who think the world owes them a living. These people are energy vampires. My time is spent with people who bring value and worth into my life. Again, I know my worth.



Lady Annisa







Monday, 27 June 2016

Q and A Monday again!

It's been quite a while since I posted the one of these. The last one can be read here...go read! 

* Edited to add that this post is not written by me, it's written by someone who visits me* 

I hope you enjoy reading this one as much as I did.





1. Do you recall when you first had a fetish/submissive/masochistic thought or idea?

I would sometimes play a game of "prisoners" with a girl who lived in my street. I was about seven or eight. My most vivid memory is of a time she had "captured" me and it was decided I would be "imprisoned" under her bed. I remember wriggling feet-first into the narrow gap, lying face upwards with the underside of the mattress a few inches away, hemmed in by boxes on each side and enjoying the feeling of being "trapped" in an enclosed space, helpless and under someone else's control. I also remember thinking that the punishment would be worse - and also more enjoyable, though I didn't understand how those two things should be connected - if I had no clothes on. I can't remember whether I was bold enough to suggest that - if I did it was ignored or rejected - but I do clearly remember thinking it. So my very first  sexual memory was of confinement, lack of control, and submission. 

2. How did you feel about it at the time?

The experience felt good, although I was aware it was naughty and that it wouldn't have been appropriate to be naked. It certainly gave me feelings that I hadn't had before, although I wasn't sure why they were pleasurable. It was never repeated or mentioned again that I can remember.

3. Did you ever feel it or you were wrong or abnormal?

Later on, a lot of my thoughts and fantasies centred on capture and imprisonment, and often restraint - sometimes I was the captor, sometimes the captive. But I didn't feel abnormal, and I wasn't really troubled by guilt. Curiosity was the strongest impulse, and it led me to some enjoyable teenage experiments. I was happy to accept that all this just reflected the way I was, and as it was all contained in my own imagination anyway, I felt it was harmless. 

4. How long did it take and what was the process for you to accept your interests?

By the time I was in my mid teens, I had found some Forum magazines. Some of the letters pages and articles contained fantasies that chimed with mine, and in a few cases fuelled them. I stored the magazines away and revisited them often. I was much more interested in the written word, in other people's experiences and fantasies, than I was in the idea of the more traditional photo magazines, and that's still the case for me. I remember one story in the letters page which I liked a lot - it was about a dominant couple, he male and she bisexual, who took a submissive couple, male and female, both straight, on holiday to a villa for a week. The submissive couple were naked at all times, and the dominant couple devised daily torments for them. Sometimes I would identify with the submissive in the story, sometimes the dominant, sometimes I would read the story as if a voyeur, but I also enjoyed the sense of creativity that it suggested could be a part of sex. I collected a few issues of Forum, and I learned from these letters pages what turned me on and what didn't, though I realise now I was lucky not to be conflicted about it - to me, it was just my particular taste, like a taste in clothes or food. 

5. When did you first dabble in fetish/submission/masochism with someone else?

I was around 20, with a girlfriend. I think the lack of previous guilt made it easier to suggest that we might try a little bondage - it seemed to me that if I had these feelings, she might also. Sometimes she would tie me to the bed at my request, and she was happy to occasionally indulge that, though I knew that she didn't enjoy the dominance as much as I did the surrender. There was no role-play, but we were sometimes able to play in a way that satisfied my submissive side. I very much looked forward to the times she would let me kneel between her legs while she read or wrote, licking and kissing her, feeling my sole purpose was to pleasure her and take no pleasure myself.

6. What would you say has been the best and worst thing about being a fetishist/submissive/masochist?

For me the intensity of the experiences that I have had, when with someone compatible, have been the most positive outcomes of my kinks. Other people choose to access their moments of intensity in other ways - alcohol, drugs, risk-taking - but I know this is my key. Each of the most satisfying and pleasurable moments has created a memory to treasure. The down side is that the frustration of knowing that these moments must be rare; I cannot have a lifestyle that permits frequent fulfilment, but I'm hardly alone in that.


Lady Annisa





Friday, 17 June 2016

Talking MedFet on NiteFlirt

I've been taking calls on NiteFlirt and from the reaction of some of my visitors to my premises it appears that everyone is rather interested in the whole thing. So let me give you a little bit of insight into why I've gone down this road.




Firstly as you probably know I've been visited quite a bit over the years by The Hunteress who is sadly (for all of us) retiring soon. We have had lots of conversations around the different areas to involve our Pro- Domming and the digital world. Until around 5 years ago all I ever did was physical sessions. Then she came one time to help me film some promo clips for my site. I enjoyed it so much I decided to do filming on a regular basis and she gave me lots of advice on how to go about that. At the time, and still now, I was never interested in running a members site due to the work involved. I knew first hand from her and other Pro-Domme friends that it was not just as easy as filming and throwing those films on a website and watching the money roll in. To be honest it looked like way more hard work than I was prepared to put in. So I decided clips4sale was the way to go. I film, edit and upload and they generate traffic and process the sales and income. It's about as much work as I want to put into something I'm not getting a lot of feedback on. And therein lies the answer to why I have decided to do MedFet calls. You see I love my sessions, I love getting reactions and I love connecting to people. With the clips over the years I've enjoyed making them and working with other people on the filming but have had no input or feedback mostly from those who buy the clips. 

Back to The Hunteress.  Over the years she has mentioned to me about doing NiteFlirt calls and for some reason I was reluctant. To be fair I think I had some misguided view that it was going to be like a full on 30 second type wank chat type of call and I'd feel rather flat afterwards. I've no idea why I had this view but that in itself had changed over her visits as I was privy to be in the vicinity as she took some calls. To be fair every one of her callers knew she has someone else in the room and on occasion I joined in the call when it was appropriate, say for small penis humiliation...the guy actually got 2 for the price of one, result! 




So I decided recently to dip my toe in the water and see what the temperature felt like. I've been experimenting with the different times of the day I've popped on. Sometimes between sessions, sometimes late at night when I'm relaxing and sometimes whilst I'm doing my admin and the call can break up the monotony. I have actually been rather pleasantly surprised. Firstly I got mail and calls from people whose words were along the lines of  'I've been so happy to see you here as I love all your clips' and 'I can now finally talk to you after all these years of following you' I've been quite blown away by this. I never expected to have 'fans' for want of a better word, get in touch and connect with me. It seems they've been wanting to do this all along. I've had genuine lengthy conversations with people about all sorts of things regarding MedFet from all the types of gas masks I have, all the ones he has to all the vast and encompassing ways to involve bondage in a medical setting, as well as roleplay type calls where Nurse takes charge. It's been fascinating and I'm totally loving it!

I suspect as time goes on my availability will decrease as I get more used to the best times to connect with my patients for their treatments as well as the best times for me to have general MedFet chats. As I've been sat here writing this I've taken a call from a poor patient who needs therapy for his chronic masturbation. It appears there are plenty of patients needing tending to at the clinic!

If you find you're just too far away to get an appointment at the clinic then feel free to give me a call and we can arrange a telephone consultation to decide on the best treatment or therapy. Here is the link to talk all things MedFet with me


Lady Annisa




Sunday, 5 June 2016

Domina Liza Visits Edinburgh

During a rare flying visit to Scotland Domina Liza will be offering Double Domme sessions with myself on Friday 24th June.




Already one of our slaves is quaking in his boots at the thought of us both being let loose on him. The poor slave has sessioned with us both individually so he's got a fair idea of what we could be like together.




With this rare visit comes the opportunity for you to apply to be another one of our playthings for the day.

Please get in touch via my website to apply to serve, used or abused. Be aware that if you are not known to me then a deposit to secure your session will be required.




Lady Annisa



Monday, 23 May 2016

Extending Things

I know I write a lot about bondage. I know some of you who are not into bondage may get bored, tough! I also know that a lot of my pictures show bondage. You get the picture of how much I like bondage. Now I have a confession to make....there is one type of bondage I haven't really immersed myself in (the pun will be revealed just in a moment!)


I haven't done much long term, extended bondage. There I said it. For a bondage lover I feel I've let the side down. However, I've decided to rectify this and make the latter part of 2016 the year of long term bondage. No, I'm not seriously going to put someone in bondage for the rest of the year, stay with me here....I'm just making a conscious effort to do more longer and less interactive bondage. Let me explain why.



I always like to be hands on. I get such a buzz out of getting reactions, whatever they may be from my slaves and playthings. While in bondage they have nowhere to go but to just sit/lie/hang there and take what it is I want to do. Be it poke, prod, torture or torment. I love seeing them react and react against the restraint. I've left my bondage bunnie on occasion for short periods of time, time for them to sink into the bondage and float away if that's the headspace they get from bondage. But the trouble with this is, I get bored, I get too fidgety, I want to be back in there doing bad things to them. This poses a huge challenge for me but it's one I want to overcome. One of my chaps often asks me if I was hyperactive as a child. Nothing could be further from the truth. I was probably quite a lazy child. However as an adult my sessions fire me up and give me energy, and I've got to use that energy one way or another. This usually means getting back in there and getting my hands on some delicate parts of exposed anatomy. As you can see from these pictures, I've not got any bondage shots of people just being left alone. I always feel the need to add something else in. 



However, as I've said I want to challenge myself to see how long I can resist, to see how long I can leave someone without having to do something. Sometimes there is beauty in silence and also beauty in doing nothing.

I've started to incorporate some of this type of bondage in my longer sessions but I'd also be happy to try it as a session in and of itself. Just to be tied up, restrained with whatever feels right and left. Add in some sensory deprivation and I know for sure it would be a headtrip and a half.

So if this appeals, go on help me meet and bust my challenge for the latter part of 2016!

Lady Annisa



Monday, 2 May 2016

The Hunteress in Residence



Well it's been almost 6 months since you guys had the pleasure of serving The Hunteress so no doubt you are all getting withdrawal symptoms. Fear not, she will be back with us again in Scotland fairly soon. The dates you can mark off in your diary are 19/20/21st May. Get organised soon people because we have already had a number of requests for appointments. As you no doubt know The Hunteress is an expert in Cp, bondage, interrogation and general female domination as well as being a fantastic partner in crime with me in the medical clinic. 



Applications should be made in the usual way. Those not known to either of us will require to pay a deposit.